Are Your Friends really Your True Friends or They are Just Merely Acquaintances?
Sunday, November 11, 2007 @ at
6:42 PM
Some incidents took place recently that set me pondering. People whom we have know for days, months or years... are they considered as our true friends? Or they are just merely passing crowd who happened to enter into our lives at that moment of time? What is your definition of a true friend?
I know this is kind of an old tag line. A true friend will be there whenever you need the person. A true friend lends you their listening ears and shoulders to cry on if you ever need to. A true friend forgives and forgets, accepts all your faults and bears with all the possible nonsense that you could come up with. A true friend will be understanding and know that all have their own lives to lead. All these traits seem to be describing your other half right? To me, these traits would also be describing someone whom I can really call as a TRUE FRIEND.
It is sad and disappointing to know that people whom you deemed as true or good friends, could easily come and hurt you with their thinking and words. Words that should have been thought through carefully, run through a few times in their brains to know whether to say a not. Words that are never meant to hurt you and never meant to make you sad... cos a true friend will say things that are meant for your own good, never offending and never with the motive to harm you. A true friend will stand side by side with you and not be wavered with whatever people have to say about you. In fact, they should be defending you if they know that people are making groundless accusation about you. That's what friends are for ain't it?
I am a simple girl with a simple mind. I always think that no matter how busy each other could be, as long as we know that we do take time to think about each other, do make efforts to meet up, do take time to msg / email and sending regards to one another... even if we really do not have time to go out as often as last time, that does not mean that they are disregarded as my friends. A true friend does not have to declare, do things and show the whole world how good a friend he / she is. We all have our own eyes to see and I do believe we are old enough to make our own judgement rather than to talk behind one's back. True friends would not be afraid to talk things out face to face, no matter how ugly things might get as we all just meant well for one another. It's always good to iron things out rather than just being influenced by what people have to say and you just go with the flow. Reminds me of "Qiang Tou Cao". With no backing and could not stand on its own.
I believe that things happen for a reason and incidents just show us what kind of people are around us. Have we made a mistake to treasure them and regard them as true friends or they are just people whom we shouldn't even waste a minute to be bothered about? I have fallen a few times and I am glad that I have true friends around to understand me, support me and to lend me their ears, staying around with me no matter how late it is.
On a happier note... Went out with Dearie on both Fri and Sat. Met Yvonne on Fri and Shan & Mervyn on Sat. Shan & Mervyn are also getting married. Happy for her!
Didn't really have time to meet her and was glad we could meet up. We went for Movie, shopping at Metro, Dinner at Spagdetties, Toast at Ah Mei Cafe and some photo-takings. I also took pics on the day I met Yvonne. Here they are... Loving the Sepia pic that I have taken with Dearie... Hugz.
